Renu (name changed) got married in February 2012. In June, the same year she had to escape from her matrimonial home in order to save her dignity and life. This was a marriage that had a very turbulent beginning. So to say, the husband and his relatives created enough nuisance on the eve of the marriage, which in my view was sufficient enough even to call off the wedding. The bride was allowed to enter the wedding hall only after all the jewels demanded were brought there. The groom's mother even had a weighing scale in place to verify if the quantity demanded was brought by the girl's parents. There was even a goldsmith present to appraise the gold brought in as dowry. I am perplexed why the girl's family went ahead with the wedding.
Societal pressure, they tell me. How much longer are girls in this country going to be sacrificed for this society? Of course, in this day and age many girls are willing to stand up for their rights, though it is no mean task. With all its material advancement the Indian mind still retains an element of primitiveness in such matters. I am not talking about some girl in an obscure village that has gone through this trauma. Renu is a Post Graduate and was employed as a Professor in an Engineering college. She quit this job to get married. Now, she is on the way out of the marriage and is finding it tough to get into another employment.
This is only one of the thousands of such cases. The facts of each case may vary, but it cannot be denied that behind all these stories there will be evil people and hell homes. Many a time, it is one woman who destroys the life of another. Mother-in-law or sister-in-law or both ensuring that the daughter-in-law is abused, both physically and mentally. There are also cases where the mother-in-law is edged out. We are not yet ready to accept that counselling can help to minimise the pressure, if not solving the problem. Parents get their children married only to see them happy. And it is the very same parents that become the hurdle to their children's matrimonial bliss.
Apart from the existing laws, the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005 is now coming to the rescue of many affected women. Under this Act any lady treated with cruelty by her husband or his relatives can petition the Court for remedy. In fact, the complaint need not even be given by the woman. It can be given by anyone interested in her welfare. The parties involved need not be married. The Act applies to those living in a shared household. The society popularly knows it as living together. They should have been in a domestic relationship. That is all.
An aggrieved woman, or anyone interested in her cause, can file a petition in the Court of the Magistrate having jurisdiction. Abuse could be physical, sexual, emotional or verbal and financial. The Act describes each of these abuses in detail. The Court is empowered to pass orders of protection, interim maintenance and restraining orders preventing the respondent from going to the place of residence or work of the wife. Such a complaint can also be made to the Protection Officer appointed by the Government. A Domestic Incident Report will be prepared and sent to the Court. This report will have complete details of the nature of abuse.
An encouraging provision in this Act is the power given to the Court to utilise the services of Service Providers whose services can be utilised for legal, counselling, medical or shelter home requirements of the aggrieved lady. Service Providers should be registered with the State Government in order to enable the Court to utilise its services. The Court shall endeavour to dispose off the petition within 60 days.
There can be so many laws. Newer features can be introduced into existing laws. Yet, if there is no basic respect for another individual, it not even be love and affection, just respect, hell homes and evil people will never cease to exist.
Societal pressure, they tell me. How much longer are girls in this country going to be sacrificed for this society? Of course, in this day and age many girls are willing to stand up for their rights, though it is no mean task. With all its material advancement the Indian mind still retains an element of primitiveness in such matters. I am not talking about some girl in an obscure village that has gone through this trauma. Renu is a Post Graduate and was employed as a Professor in an Engineering college. She quit this job to get married. Now, she is on the way out of the marriage and is finding it tough to get into another employment.
This is only one of the thousands of such cases. The facts of each case may vary, but it cannot be denied that behind all these stories there will be evil people and hell homes. Many a time, it is one woman who destroys the life of another. Mother-in-law or sister-in-law or both ensuring that the daughter-in-law is abused, both physically and mentally. There are also cases where the mother-in-law is edged out. We are not yet ready to accept that counselling can help to minimise the pressure, if not solving the problem. Parents get their children married only to see them happy. And it is the very same parents that become the hurdle to their children's matrimonial bliss.
Apart from the existing laws, the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005 is now coming to the rescue of many affected women. Under this Act any lady treated with cruelty by her husband or his relatives can petition the Court for remedy. In fact, the complaint need not even be given by the woman. It can be given by anyone interested in her welfare. The parties involved need not be married. The Act applies to those living in a shared household. The society popularly knows it as living together. They should have been in a domestic relationship. That is all.
An aggrieved woman, or anyone interested in her cause, can file a petition in the Court of the Magistrate having jurisdiction. Abuse could be physical, sexual, emotional or verbal and financial. The Act describes each of these abuses in detail. The Court is empowered to pass orders of protection, interim maintenance and restraining orders preventing the respondent from going to the place of residence or work of the wife. Such a complaint can also be made to the Protection Officer appointed by the Government. A Domestic Incident Report will be prepared and sent to the Court. This report will have complete details of the nature of abuse.
An encouraging provision in this Act is the power given to the Court to utilise the services of Service Providers whose services can be utilised for legal, counselling, medical or shelter home requirements of the aggrieved lady. Service Providers should be registered with the State Government in order to enable the Court to utilise its services. The Court shall endeavour to dispose off the petition within 60 days.
There can be so many laws. Newer features can be introduced into existing laws. Yet, if there is no basic respect for another individual, it not even be love and affection, just respect, hell homes and evil people will never cease to exist.